Wearing Gratitude Like a Cloak

My husband Ted has enjoyed cycling with a small group of friends for many years. One of the members of that group just died after battling cancer. Every time I saw Stotler he was a ray of sunshine. Always funny and caring, and such an engaging person. After retiring a few years ago he spent much of his time volunteering with the food bank and at A Place at the Table. Ted received a text from a friend who recently visited Stotler.  She said that the one word that summed up Stotler’s view on life was ‘grateful’. She went on to say that over the past few months he repeatedly said that if he was unable to beat cancer, he would have no regrets because he knew he came out on the winning end of life.

When ted shared this text with me I was reminded of a Rumi quote:

Wear gratitude like a cloak and it will feed every corner of your life.

I wonder what it feels like to wear gratitude like a cloak? To live into and be surrounded by gratitude?

Recently for me that has come in the form of enjoying the gift of extended visits with my parents. They have both been in need of additional support with health issues, medical appointments, downsizing, moving, and all of the other things that require attention as we age. My mom now lives a mile away, and my dad lives in Morehead City.  I am often needed, and increasingly at unexpected times. Both of my parents have repeatedly said that they hate to be a burden, but to me it doesn’t feel like a burden. I have honestly enjoyed the extra time with them. We often reminisce about our family trips, funny stories, and many times for which we are grateful. I enjoy cooking for them and sharing meals with them. Sure, there is work involved, some of which is a bit challenging, but I wouldn’t trade these times for anything. I am truly grateful for them, and grateful to be part of such a loving family.

In the days ahead I will focus on what it means to wear gratitude like a cloak. I hope it will fill every corner of my life.

-Serena Buckner